The Evolution of My Healing. What We Talk About When We Talk About Pooping


For the longest time, I’ve been wanting more poop visibility.

I mean, I said that last column, so this shouldn’t be too much of a surprise. But, the reason why is that it’s a thing that literally (and I’m not even being hyperbolic!) all of us do, and yet there’s such a strange dislocation and disassociation that occurs when it comes to it, and to that particular part of our body. It’s as if we are cloaked in shame—and that we want it to be something that’s divorced from us, or something to sit outside of us (and not something that comes from directly within us) like the ugly sides of ourselves that we want to hide.

Like, why is that whenever we start seeing someone new we pretend as if we don’t defecate? I know people that have been dating their significant others for years and have still never pooped in their company. As if it’s something mysteriously that none of us do.

Pooping? I don’t know her.

To me it’s a lack of embracing the reality of our bodies. Of trying to create this perfect, glossed over image of ourselves, when in actuality we are complex microcosms of both ugly and beautiful.

As I mentioned last column, a friend of mine had OBGYN cancer last year. After her recovery, her entire relationship with her body changed. Talking about pooping, but also being a witness to her pooping schedule, i.e. making sure that she was checking in with when she was going to the bathroom, or that she was also paying attention to all the details—right down to the color, shape and type of poop—became a welcome reminder that her body was always telling her signs of what it likes, and what it doesn’t like. As does all of our bodies. Those warning signs are an important language to start being acquainted, or fluent, with.

Over the last year, I’ve been tracking my poop schedule (relatively) closely with Lisa.

Through this experience of getting regular acupuncture, I’ve become more confident with my own body’s languages, as well as knowing my limits. Being able to talk to a professional about what’s working—and mostly being open about what’s not—has changed how I view myself, and shown me how much autonomy I have over my own vessel, and its parameters and restrictions. That there’s no point in pushing it to a conclusion, I got to work with it.

I like how whenever I see Lisa that there’s a transparent conversation about why I might be experiencing discomfort with my pooping. For example, if I’m having dry, irregular or even forcing my poops out—it’s usually a sign of dehydration. First step would be drinking more intentionally, duh, taking slow assured sips… But, when it comes to acupuncture, I’ve learnt that good points for that could be Liver 11, which cools the heat (that might be drying out the poop) in the intestines. Or, another point could even be Kidney 6, which helps nourish your fluids, to ensure that the water you are intaking isn’t just going into your body and being rapidly flushed out.

If I’ve been eating a lot of the things that don’t sit well in my body (shout out to dairy!) I might be experiencing watery diarrhea. A way to combat that (or, rather, help ease) could be the point UB 25 which helps clear out any funk in your system. It’s particularly good for helping with watery poops, or dysentery, as it aids with regulating the function of the colon. And—if you didn’t know—your colon supports you by releasing the toxins from your body. When it’s flared up, this could lead to colitis (which is generally more genetic, but still) so it’s important to understand what works with you, to know what could be a trigger point. Or, sadly, even a point of no return.

At any given moment there’s so much to take into consideration about the way your body works, and there’s always an answer. Sometimes there’s mystery, that’s true, but more often than not, acupuncture has a way to work through it, not a temporary solution around it, or something that acts as a bandaid, but has no way of resolving the actual problem.

That’s what I like most about acupuncture, it’s a constant reminder that there’s a way to be real with myself, and directly deal with an issue. One thing with pooping, and talking about pooping, is knowing that there’s really no way out, but through.

About The Author

This guest post was authored by Fariha Róisín, a talented writer based here in Brooklyn.We are indebted to Fariha for sharing this experience. We are humbled to be in service to such a brave, strong & beautiful human and it is with great gratitude we are able to share Fariha's writings with our community.

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